"Great Sexpectations."

After enabling our insomnia via a midnight call, I couldn't get Kimie's logic and words outta my head - Per the conversation, I began thinking about sexpectations ... We are aware as smart single men that we can't expect perfection in the bedroom or the relationship. But, life still manages to throw curveballs at us, some more expected than others. Maybe, once into your mid-thirties, 'dating' isn't the suitable title. Perhaps, 'waiting-for-the-other-shoe-to-eventually-drop' would be more formfitting. So, if it is not the sex among me and you, somebody has to become a Jew - I couldn't help but wonder ... Why is it always something?

 

Ordinarily, women are like Erotic Novels - They fancy a romantic plot ... Whereas men are like Porn - Their preference is cutting right to the chase...

...Here's a hypothetical relationship scenario : Let's say the emotional and mental connection is absolutely terrific in every which way imaginable. There's too a physical attraction but the connection in the bedroom simply is not clicking - Eventually, with the absence of sex, whether it's a mutual agreement or what seems to happen over time, the other connection(s) will diminish, regardless their strength. There's no antidote for when things go terribly sour in the relationship.

There's a deadline on communicating the problems within a relationship, or what's lacking in it. It's definitely uncomfortable to speak negatively of that sensitive aspect, but what's worse is losing something possibly fabulous by not and avoiding it all together, until one picks to fleet ... Would they be the one that got away or the one that you let go and vice versa? There's a great likelihood they weren't the one for you, but with words left unspoken and stuff left unsorted out, you could never truly know.

Along the way, there's always need for change - If it's not about sex, it's regarding something that is equivalently as discouraging ... Few are willing to convert while others aren't. One might argue "change" suggests they're not sparking with the real you. I'm not positive I agree, it's contingent on where the urgency for change is placed, some things are a nonnegotiable in the end. However, there's probably a second piece to their argument which would carry weight. The right individual for you would accept and embrace you for who you truly are, flaws and all - So, what's the gig with the sudden needs for these earth-shattering changes?

Here's the verdict Small Townies : We're terribly wrapped up in locating the flaws within our lover to apply changes that, in our heads, bring us closer to a "Barbie & Ken" ... But, whatever happened to having a "Ross & Rachel" or "Carrie & Big"? Although together their ups and downs are undeniable, via dedication/devotion, modification, understanding and a supernatural love, are they the couples we are reminded of everywhere that we go. Those are the qualities which to strive for, which solidify a romantic relationship, surpassing the "Barbie & Ken" in every which way imaginable and possible...
...You'll be challenging each other, not to change, but to improve and prosper, while you flourish in a love strengthening each passing day - As you're holding the other's hand and you're locking lips, enjoying being in the other's arms after making love tremendously...
...Which, for the record, "Barbie & Ken" cannot do as they have flat and smooth crotches ... Things up in the Malibu dream house aren't too stellar. They're in need of change. Nothing validates desiring that life - Especially while you could be experiencing a love only found in a Small Town apartment.