"Evolutionary Relationships?"

Ever since Woody Allen described waving to Mia Farrow, the single-males of The Small Town yearned for that type of say 'separate-togetherness'. I've said this a few times before but, I feel as if I'm the last dinosaur...Was I the one who needed to adapt? If so was my view on relationships' extinct? I couldn't help but really getting to think about it : The Small-Town, a place where gay men are so out they're in, women, so chronically single ovaries may become the next vestigial organ...The Small-Town, where astonishingly enough, you can have almost anything delivered at practically any hour : You could have food prepared, dry-cleaning done, your dog groomed...So who exactly needed a wife when they could have a doorwoman? The woman who opens the door to where you will eat great meals and have even greater sex with people you'll have no further emotional attachment to...Are we The Small Townies' evolving past relationships?

And, here's a thought... ~ I'm constantly talking about the beliefs of society, and how absurd I find all of them. But you have to take into consideration all of the miscellaneous negative things that occur in modern relationships. Maybe that explains why they're so lackluster nowadays...Sometimes I wonder if men and women suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then...

"The Ick Factor."

After rereading my latest posts, I couldn't help but wonder...It's certainly known that true love and romance are lackluster these days. Society has imposed and preached absurd new beliefs that I find troubling and rather reckless. It's all about the quantity, just how many individuals can you hop into bed with. And not about quality relationships and finding your true-love. Sure, you're certainly entitled to your fair share of hooking up, but has it gone too far among individuals these days? Seriously, I'm quite concerned. In the rapid progression of the disintegration of meaningful relationships based upon love and romance, it's not rocket science in determining that at this rate, quality relationships could go extinct...

Now, I would like you to really think about that for a moment...I'm just curious, do you find that thought nearly as petrifying as I find it? But, regardless of how you feel, a large percentage of individuals really don't seem to care. I'm one who honestly believes you don't know what you've got until it is gone. What has got to happen, what must we succumb to, to realize the treatment of relationships these days is pitiful and they're taken for granted? It's frivolous believing that you can be fulfilled and happy, with having your love life only consist of intimate encounters. It may not be tomorrow or the day after that, even in the next year, but reality will hit you. You'll realize you've made the improper choices for too long, it might be too late, and you'll never really know what love is...

Love is infinite and magnificent and there is nothing else like it in the world, something that we all need, whether we decide to admit it or not is irrelevant. You need love to survive and to thrive. We are not emotionally deprived beings after all...I'm not really sure what to say at this point, change among the beliefs of individuals is imperative, in my opinion. Romance should be valued and not casted aside solely because one's beliefs and their priorities are jacked up. I feel as if I'm the last dinosaur...Are my views regarding what a dignified relationship is extinct? What does the future hold for meaningful relationships? At this rate, will there even be a future in attaining quality relationships? Who really knows, let's try to make changes and gain a little perspective, take it from there and see what happens...

Have we become terribly jaded or are we just intolerant of romance, nowadays?

"The Agony And The 'Ex-'tasy"

I'm thinking about soul-mates. Realistically, from a relatively young age, you'll be informed about a journey in life. This's a very specific journey... - The exquisite journey of finding your soul-mate in life. You're first perspective of true love and romance is usually rather misguided, you'll believe that your first boyfriend/girlfriend is the one for you. However, once that doesn't work out as originally planned, and you have had more experiences with relationships, your perception begins to alter. As you age, you'll see that the journey of finding your true love is quite a lengthy one. It's rarely easy and short...

But, I have some radical perspective regarding soul-mates. You'll experience a lot of heartache along this illustrious journey. Which leads me to ponder, is finding your soul-mate reality or torture? These heartaches have an extensive history of leading to depression, and even suicide at times, depending on what came about within you due to that break-up. It really gets you wondering, what's truly the underlying value of this hurt, wouldn't it be plausible to chuck it up as unnecessary considering it obtains no benefits?

I think if you're determined to find your soul-mate, you'll have to be headstrong, somewhat emotionally and mentally prepared for these types of events while also being sure that you're keeping an open mind. Although, I understand just how challenging that can be. It's very draining and stressful, but you must remain positive. Think about the good times, try and avoid nitpicking all of the negatives. Again, difficult, as the negatives can completely compromise your whole life in unspeakable ways which can have the ability of leading to who knows what later on...
Soul-mates : reality or a torture device?

"What's Your Preference?"

Recently, I went out to indulge in an early-morning breakfast with Gabby, John and Kim. Afterwards, we decided to catch a flick in the mid-afternoon. Something was quite different about this friendly excursion as I had shared an experience with Gabby and Kim, I've never truly had before. And strangely enough it involves erotica ( Erotic Novels ). Somehow, we got to discussing the difference between these erotic novels and porn...

Erotica always has a plot, an intriguing one at that. Porn, doesn't. Or, if it does, it's rather cheap and the acting is poor. Following the 'acting', you'll generally see a vicious form of sex. It's to my knowledge some find this appealing, typically being men, however I don't.

I miss the unmistakable love and the fierce passion that took a relationship by storm, in all aspects including sex. Now, sex literally walks the streets and you see it everywhere. Romance is disintegrating and those attempting to reintegrate it are emerging unsuccessful, as they continuously get bombarded with the new absurd beliefs society preaches. 

Our generation has been tainted.

That's why I found these erotic novels ever so intriguing, as the authors display a virtuous form of true love and romance. It's keeping the beliefs of prior generations alive, giving me hope as there might still be a chance to reincarnate love and romance in all its' bountiful glory...Gabby, Kim & I believe this in its' entirety, and love the writings' meaning and sole purpose of delivering true love. Altering modern day's 'fucking' and 'hooking-up' into making love once more. It instills faith among us, granting us the immense opportunity of believing that out there, true love does still exist and it's valued as it so should...

"Tainted Love..."

I've never got to thinking about abusive relationships nor write about them in any regard. ~ I've decided upon expanding the horizon of "Sex And The Small Town". And, as it remains from day one I'm still optimistically determined to thrive in my quest of solving relationships. Although, I must admit, I've had my fair share of disappointing experiences with relationships. Which, I've relayed to you all on numerous occasions. The point of this blog is to truly conquer love, step-by-step. Absolutely, sometimes we slip and fall leaving a scar and it's quite challenging to accept them and to face them everyday while attempting to move on, romantically. But, I believe if you're truly motivated that you can learn from each of those scars, improve your character and be one step closer to finding the 'One'...However, I understand that while having a fresh 'scar', that's rather difficult to believe. I'm completely aware and understanding...I was there.

Now, I'm focusing on the point of this post. ~ Abusive relationships which leave scars, and tainted love...I think abusive relationships are flat out horrendous and unhealthy. And I always thought relationships were supposed to be constructed on secure foundation of commitment, faithfulness, loyalty, love, trust, etc...I don't understand the need for the abuse on any grounds whatsoever. If you're willing to physically harm your lover, than I think that relationship needs to end, immediately. The 'criminal' of these actions needs professional assistance and need not be in a relationship, until whichever deemed necessary repercussion by an authority figure is acted on, and they've received the assistance they desperately needed (Anger Management Classes, Incarceration, Therapy, etc.) And, the 'victim' must do what's best for themselves when in these predicaments. You don't deserve the abuse, no one does. And, I know if you're truly in love with the abuser, you might 'prefer' the abuse rather than leaving the relationship. But, here's the thing...If they're honestly comfortable with abusing their lover, they genuinely don't love nor care about you, providing you with no reason to stay in that relationship.

You're truly better than that and out there, is a person who will love you no matter what and would never try to harm you in any way. Abuse is inexcusable, it's never necessary, especially in relationships where both individuals are supposed to have a connection and lurks is the possibility of a promising future together. If abuse has become mainstream in your relationship, whether you're the 'criminal' or the 'victim' of these actions is irrelevant, the foundation of the relationship has been damaged and tainted and most of the time, irreconcilable. Currently, if you're suffering from emotional and/or physical abuse in your relationship, what're you going to do? Are you blinded by 'love' and simply won't do anything about it, allowing the continuation of abuse? Or will you come to terms with realizing that you do not deserve the abuse, removing yourself from that relationship, then being able to do what is needed for yourself? You and I both know what is the correct and proper choice. It's very imperative to know that in life, the welfare of yourself and family comes first. And it's unethical keeping yourself in a bad relationship or situation where abuse is mainstream...In matters of abuse relationships, do you have the confidence and the willpower to remove yourself from the hazardous situation?