"Tainted Love..."

I've never got to thinking about abusive relationships nor write about them in any regard. ~ I've decided upon expanding the horizon of "Sex And The Small Town". And, as it remains from day one I'm still optimistically determined to thrive in my quest of solving relationships. Although, I must admit, I've had my fair share of disappointing experiences with relationships. Which, I've relayed to you all on numerous occasions. The point of this blog is to truly conquer love, step-by-step. Absolutely, sometimes we slip and fall leaving a scar and it's quite challenging to accept them and to face them everyday while attempting to move on, romantically. But, I believe if you're truly motivated that you can learn from each of those scars, improve your character and be one step closer to finding the 'One'...However, I understand that while having a fresh 'scar', that's rather difficult to believe. I'm completely aware and understanding...I was there.

Now, I'm focusing on the point of this post. ~ Abusive relationships which leave scars, and tainted love...I think abusive relationships are flat out horrendous and unhealthy. And I always thought relationships were supposed to be constructed on secure foundation of commitment, faithfulness, loyalty, love, trust, etc...I don't understand the need for the abuse on any grounds whatsoever. If you're willing to physically harm your lover, than I think that relationship needs to end, immediately. The 'criminal' of these actions needs professional assistance and need not be in a relationship, until whichever deemed necessary repercussion by an authority figure is acted on, and they've received the assistance they desperately needed (Anger Management Classes, Incarceration, Therapy, etc.) And, the 'victim' must do what's best for themselves when in these predicaments. You don't deserve the abuse, no one does. And, I know if you're truly in love with the abuser, you might 'prefer' the abuse rather than leaving the relationship. But, here's the thing...If they're honestly comfortable with abusing their lover, they genuinely don't love nor care about you, providing you with no reason to stay in that relationship.

You're truly better than that and out there, is a person who will love you no matter what and would never try to harm you in any way. Abuse is inexcusable, it's never necessary, especially in relationships where both individuals are supposed to have a connection and lurks is the possibility of a promising future together. If abuse has become mainstream in your relationship, whether you're the 'criminal' or the 'victim' of these actions is irrelevant, the foundation of the relationship has been damaged and tainted and most of the time, irreconcilable. Currently, if you're suffering from emotional and/or physical abuse in your relationship, what're you going to do? Are you blinded by 'love' and simply won't do anything about it, allowing the continuation of abuse? Or will you come to terms with realizing that you do not deserve the abuse, removing yourself from that relationship, then being able to do what is needed for yourself? You and I both know what is the correct and proper choice. It's very imperative to know that in life, the welfare of yourself and family comes first. And it's unethical keeping yourself in a bad relationship or situation where abuse is mainstream...In matters of abuse relationships, do you have the confidence and the willpower to remove yourself from the hazardous situation?