"Don't Ask, Don't Tell."

I couldn't help but get to questioning the whole concept of honesty ... Maybe the idea was overrated. Maybe coming clean is the ultimate act of unquestionable selfishness, a method of absolving yourself by hurting someone who doesn't deserve it in the least. Way back in fifth grade, I cheated on a test with three friends - They wound up confessing what they had done and failed the class. I never told anyone about my involvement in the act and never suffered the consequences nor did it ever matter. When it comes to relationships, is honesty the best policy or was it a flimflam for suckers?

 

However, that was simply a test in fifth grade, a heart couldn't be broken because of it ... So, how much does the situation change for relationships, where so easily it's scary a heart can be shattered? When you cheat on something like a test, the premise of the act is simply the carefree way of passing. When you cheat on the person that you're in a relationship with, there's always an underlying cause - And the cause is typically what in your perspective is lacking in your current relationship. The indiscretion will likely feel terrific at first, due to the reunification with whatever it is you've been deprived of for however long, but back at the ranch this little thing named guilt kicks in. In view of these circumstances, one may wish the whole concept of honesty didn't exist ... That we lived in a guilt free and no-strings-attached world, where selective explanations was trending and you were completely innocent by omission. Unfortunately, this is not the case. Guilt has the capability of gnawing at your conscience to the core - First, you should question as to whether or not you actually belong in that particular relationship since you actually cheated on your partner. Infidelities cannot be justified with regret or sorrow and technicalities, especially when it was feasible to discuss your concerns and worries with your partner and derive a solution for them. However, if the damage is done, you're stranded with two options ... Let the guilt ingurgitate you, or jeopardize what you do have with your current partner. Well, I'm a firm believer in if you're willing to do the crime so to say, you should be willing to do the time and suffer the repercussions for your actions - Whether it's grand larceny or it's unfaithfulness in a relationship, it's practically the same gig with situational differences.

I couldn't help but wonder ... Are guilt and honesty linked to each other in an inextricable way? Maybe honesty isn't exactly the best policy of them all, but when guilt devours us, it seems to be the policy we continuously find ourselves investing in. Although coming clean jeopardizes everything we put at risk in our actions, we walk away with a very valuable lesson regardless of the turnout - Also, once we do find ourselves the right woman, cheating won't be an issue in any way ... And, once all factors broken down regardless of our current situations, that's definitely something to look forward to and strive for.